[Only say things you would want to see as reality in your life]
This resolve is one that I wrote down without thinking of all the implications of it. If I really want to live according to this statement that means: no gossiping, no complaining, no whining, etc. Which, actually sounds quite nice–but it is rather challenging to accomplish. And just because it is challenging, does not mean that it is impossible.
Last week I was driving with my friend Vierra. I had all sorts of negative and stress-filled thoughts running through my head. Meanwhile, she is sitting in the drivers seat light as a feather and in the best mood. I was about to verbally burden her with all of my stress, and right as I was about to open my mouth and complain, I stopped and thought for a split second about what that would do to this short amount of time I had to hang out with her. I looked over at V, saw that she was in the best mood and realized that I could either go to her level, or drag her down to mine (and how selfish that would be).
So, instead of complaining about my bad mood and all the things that were stressing me out, I chose to “move in the opposite spirit” (shameless plug for you to go read post 9). I got ahold of this bad mood and chose to laugh instead of cave to irritability. I sort of latched on to her good mood and let go of my bad one, and you know what? It transformed my entire day. In that ten minute drive, my attitude completely turned around and we ended up having one of those conversations that gets you dreaming about all of the possibilities that life holds. I got out of her car not wanting to leave because I was laughing, having so much fun, and genuinely felt inspired. Seriously. IN TEN MINUTES. It is crazy how an atmosphere of positive words can change a day. (Can you imagine if this became a daily habit? Good days would turn into good years, and good years into a good life.) Spend each day speaking things that build atmospheres of life and joy, and before you know it–what a full and rich lifetime that will have turned into.
I’ve often heard it said that your words create your reality, and I’m beginning to experience how true that statement actually is. Give it a shot. Resolve for a week, maybe even just a day, that you would only speak words that make yourself and others feel at ease, lighthearted, full of laughter, hope, and inspiration. Not to say that you should ignore the serious conversations or issues that are bound to arise–because no matter what, tough conversations will undoubtedly find you, situations you don’t want to deal with will come up, and you have to process it. But, my premise is that you can have the toughest conversation, yet still talk about it from a stance of hope. You either create a sense of optimism or pessimism with your words. And my thought is that the world is already full of enough pessimists, that a few people who choose to speak from a place of optimism might be refreshing every once in a while.
“A bit in the mouth of a horse controls the whole horse. A small rudder on a huge ship in the hands of a skilled captain sets a course in the face of the strongest winds. A word out of your mouth may seem of no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything–or destroy it.” [James 3:3-5 MSG]